Wednesday, July 25, 2007

More about Soft Addictions

I seriously feel that i am guilty of indulging in one - "surfing net for hours together" .


Do you have a soft addiction?

By Judith Wright

After a tough day, do you come home and flop in your easy chair, grab a bag of chips and zone out in front of the television? Or maybe you compulsively check your e-mail, spend hours surfing the Net or stay up late chatting with strangers in chatrooms. Whether you get lost in cyberspace, over shop, watch too much TV, gossip, bite your nails, daydream excessively, procrastinate or over-exercise, you may be caught in what Judith Wright calls a “soft addiction”.

Soft Addictions are seemingly harmless habits that rob us of our time, zap our energy, numb us from our feelings, mute our consciousness and keep us from living the satisfying, meaningful lives we desire.

Soft Addictions can be activities, moods or ways of being, avoidances, and things-edible and consumable. Many soft addictions involve necessary behaviors like eating, reading, and sleeping. They become soft addictions when we overdo them and when they are used for more than their intended purpose.

Are you involved in a regular activity, avoidance, mood or thing that is a soft addiction?

Take this quiz and find out.

How many “yes” answers indicate that you have a soft addiction? Even a single “yes” answer might qualify!

Soft Addiction Quiz

1. Would you be unlikely to go on national television and say, “You, too, should do this,” about your behavior?

2. When asked why you do this thing, do your reasons sound like an excuse or a rationalization?

3. Do you do an activity or retreat to a mood compulsively or habitually?

4. Is there a particular routine that you follow, almost like a ritual, for this behavior?

5. Do you have difficulty imagining life without it (or even with less of it)?

6. Do you want to change this behavior, resolve to do so, but then find yourself unable to keep your resolution?

7. Do you feel scared or stubborn when someone suggests you stop or reduce this behavior?

8. Has the time you spend doing the activity or being in the mood increased without providing the same level of satisfaction it once did?

9. Have you been teased, mocked, or criticized because of how you’re wasting a great deal of your time on trivial pursuits?

10. Has someone close to you become annoyed or angry with you about the amount of time, money, and/or energy you devote to a given activity?

11. Have you cancelled or turned down positive opportunities in order to indulge an activity, substance, or mood?

12. Has your particular activity, mood, or avoidance caused you to get in trouble on the job?

13. Is this something that you would be embarrassed about if others were to learn of it? Does it feel like a secret you’re ashamed of?

If you are still unsure or would like to see how much of an issue your soft addictions are for you, there are three key questions you can always ask yourself: How much time do I spend? What is my motivation? How does it make me feel? If the activity or behavior creates MORE for you - more energy, more learning and growing, more time, more of a sense of aliveness - then it's probably not a soft addiction. But if the behavior or activity leaves you feeling drained, numbed, buzzed, distracted or feeling less, then chances are it is a soft addiction. Remember, everybody has soft addictions. If you can recognize them, then you're well on your way to overcoming them.


Monday, July 23, 2007

My Virtual real as it gets!

This is how i feel about my blog.My unconditional confidante!!

Sunday, July 22, 2007

Mini Celebrity on a Matrimonial site

One of many strange personal ads on a matrimonial sites ....(yeah , i have been there for 5 years now...I guess they should publish their unsuccessful stories too , at least i would get a chance to get published) . So i received a mail from this bachelor around last month , went and checked out his profile...laughed alone ...and thought that was the end of it (Never responded to the mail though! , read on will know why). So when i got another mail from this guy asking for my number last week, i had totally erased him out of memory. Had to go back to his profile again to remind myself of who he was ...yeah , and as soon as i read the first 2 lines , i remembered.

Couldn't help posting his ad here ... even on the 2nd reading , it had the same effect on me. So whatever its worth , here's to a good laugh and some wide eyed amusement. Enjoy!

My comments in blue
[P.S. - My apologies to the bachelor :)....]



I am very outgoing and dynamic by nature. A true Indian techie and has earned name worldwide (So , ok till here u think its just another bachelor selling himself , but wait it gets better and funnier!). I work for a very big MNC (Mind it people , VERY BIG). Watching movies or going on a long drive or taking a walk along the sea line are few of my favorite passtime.(For somebody in a big MNC , you would think he would spell "favourite" right to say the least , also would use plural "passtimes" for a list of activities) I balance my lifestyle in a different manner at different places. Always value my parents and my relatives.

My Job: I work for a very big MNC (fortune 100 company) (VERY BIG , believe him people , VERY BIG ...)as a team lead. For my peers and people who are working in my field, I am a mini-celebrity to them (This cracked me up....i couldn't stop laughing for two minutes exaggeration here!). In other words, I am pretty much well known in my industry and I do have lot of fans like any other industrial celebrity (Fans?? oh my god!!...Industrial Celebrity ??.. I was about to faint). Besides this, I have been invited by several education institutions as a speaker or guest.. (Well..i am actually surprised that he ended it here, but then again, maybe he must have been getting late while writing this to go to some institution as a speaker!)

Looking for: I am looking for someone who is very beautiful in all sense i. e. by looks, by nature and by personality (Great sentence formation for a mini celebrity ref- beautiful in all "sense"). The one after seeing whome (cant even use spell check on the word editor , Mr. Celebrity in the IT field?) I will never feel like looking at any other girl.(Trust me man , you would still look) She should be a perfect blend of beauty + nature + intelligence. She should always keep the family values on high priority and devote herself completely towards it. It will be always ensured that she will stay like a queen of my heart and will be liked by all the family members..... There are still more to be written but for the time being I have to stop here :) ("There ARE still more to be written"...Man , I tell you sometimes i feel so frustrated with such language butchering )

My Family: Both my dad and mom are the most wonderful people in this planet. They treat everyone same and love to help people. They do a lot of social service and for people they are like GOD. (Oh , so not only him but his parents also ! And no less than nothing else but GOD!!)
I have only one sister. (And she is worth one line only! ...She must not be either a celebrity or GOD)


What do you say to that?

Friday, July 20, 2007

Dont need a man , but want one!

See...I was right!

You Don't Need a Man, but You Want One!

You like having a guy in your life, and overall, you prefer not to be single.
You won't go out with a guy out of desperation.. you rather be alone.
However, when you're single, you do tend to obsess a little over dating.
Because no matter how good your single life is, it's better with a great guy around.

Pretty Happy being single

And now...... its official!
I am Happy being single.....(Hey all the men out there , dont stop trying though! "Happier" is a better state to be in than "Happy" , right?)

You Are Pretty Happy Being Single

You have a full, fun life. And you definitely don't need love to be content.
Of course, being single can get you down a little. Especially when you've been single for a while.
But you know how to be patient and wait for the right person. You're life is too good to settle for anything!

Balanced Passion? Is that even possible?

I was curious because yesterday someone said -" You? You are not at all passionate!"

Your Passion is Purple!

You've got a ton of passion, but you don't always wear it on your sleeve.
If something truly excites you, you let your inner intensity shine through.
But otherwise, your passion tends to morph into energy ... which you never lack.
You're a balanced woman, knowing when to turn on the fire in your heart.

So ...then why am i single?

Well..this is in sync with how i feel but then why havent it worked out for me yet? Is the right match still to come my way ? ...Lets hope so!

You Are A Relationship Rescuer!

You don't ruin relationships, if anything you keep them together
The key: you respect yourself and your guy. Which goes further than you might think.
You simply treat your guy how you would like to be treated... the old golden rule.
And in return, he treats you like gold - or at least tries. And how perfect is that

Alpha Female

And i thought would say "You are a total Alpha female!"
Thank God for these little mercies ...phew!

You Have Many Alpha Tendencies

You're not a total alpha female, but you certainly know how to - and like to - get your way.
You're forceful without being intimidating. You're confident without being vain. A perfect mix.

Saturday, July 7, 2007

Pretty Accurate! Must try!

Well now thats pretty accurate , i must say!! I am 2 out of these 4 professions listed below.

Your Dominant Intelligence is Logical-Mathematical Intelligence

You are great at finding patterns and relationships between things. Always curious about how things work, you love to set up experiments.

You need for the world to make sense - and are good at making sense of it. You have a head for numbers and math ... and you can solve almost any logic puzzle.

You would make a great scientist, engineer, computer programmer, researcher, accountant, or mathematician.

Friday, July 6, 2007

Soft Addiction

I read an article about soft addiction in Times of India today...and i seriously think i too have one...of reading random blogs!!!